Reflections about life.
Today,
the fallen General Aronda Nyakirima’s body lay in state, at Parliament - for
the public to pay tribute to a devout servant of the nation. A friend, earlier
had posted a picture of the General’s family. In the picture, the grief
stricken daughter of the General leaned on her mother’s shoulder, while
the son, gazed down, depicting a hopeless situation. A picture is worth a thousand words, there was a subtle message: behind the ceremonial pulse, the
gunshot salutes and the army green, there is family that has been broken into pieces. Seeing this family made me reminisce what happened to me 12
years ago. A
similar feat befell my family, when my father passed away.
At the age of 11, what seemed to be a normal day in the life of a teenager
turned into the grim of a cold long night.
On 30th May, 2003, in the
evening at 5:00 pm while at Namilyango Junior Boys School, I received
the news about the death of my father. The tabloids around the country
covered the story on their cover pages, " Basoga is dead." As a child, I had no clue as to what his death meant. Since
my father was a Cabinet Minister and Member of Parliament, the immediate thought, was that he
had sought asylum or was on one of those foreign missions, he
so often took.
When I was driven home, it donned on me, that indeed my father had died. The vigil had already began; the beautiful stars seemed like a pale constellation.
The groaning of sorrow in our sitting room was more vivid than I ever recalled,
it literally felt like the angel and shadow of death had camped right there.
Several luminaries turned up for the vigil; state ministers, legislators and my
father’s colleagues all found our home to be the dwelling place for the night.
It
was becoming clearer to me that I would never be able to sit by the window to
wait for my father to return from work. I knew from then on, it was not
a hoax, though difficult, I had to get to terms with the
reality, he had died and was never going return: sadly, there was nothing my sorrow could do change about it.
The
scenes the morning after are perhaps the ones I recollect the most. I was a
part of the group that boarded a state vehicle and were driven to All Saints
Cathedral in Kampala Diocese. The church was filled to capacity, with part
of the congregation standing on the lawns. I could not think of any notable
person in the country that did not attend the mass. My elder sister, Susan
delivered the eulogy on behalf of my siblings. I recall the apparently
cold tears gliding down her pale cheeks. I could not hold it too, I felt a lump
in my throat while my eyes got heavier and sunken by the minute. My sister’s sobbing led me to inevitably give in,
I sobbed and cried as if I had just come to the realisation that my father had
died. I looked up to the ceiling and asked myself why God had taken away my
father. Out of all the people in the world. What was the Lord thinking? Who would take care of us and support my mother?
The
condolences, the wreaths laid on the casket (which were numerous) could
neither heal the wound nor the void left in my heart. I felt like a hollow pipe, without water running through it, to
give it a breath of freshness.
After the funeral service, my father's corpse was scheduled to be
taken to Parliament, for the Members of Parliament to pay
their last respects. We traversed to the nation’s Parliament. We sat
through the longest parliamentary session I have ever attended. I heard for the
first time the narration of my father’s servant heart, his commitment to serve
the nation, his accomplishments, his flaws and interesting opinions about his radical tendencies while a student at Makerere University. I learnt that he had announced his own Guild Student Election results after he had been notified that the candidate he supported had lost under questionable circumstances. I realised that my father was neither an ordinary man nor just a husband, he was a national leader, a servant of the people, a
man who stood for the principles of democracy. It became more vivid to me that
his life was much more than the words he said, but the blue prints he left on people’s hearts and several families.
We
proceeded to the village in Namutumba Constituency, then a part of Iganga district in Eastern Uganda, where a mammoth crowd awaited. The majority of the crowd was wailing, while others were ecstatic(I still do not know why, the only logical explanation was, perhaps because most of them had never seen as many cars in one place).
I heard an old woman say the, “the Lion of Busiki has died.” The President of
Uganda then (who, 12 years later is still president) joined the mourners. He
addressed the mammoth crowd and empathised with Uganda about the loss of a
senior statesman whose commitment to service was unrivalled. How a man from a small village in Namutumba would cause such a national outcry is
still spectacle of great inquiry (one which I hope to explore when I write about his life.)
So,
when I saw the picture of the General’s family, my soul wept, I understood the depth
of their pain. No number of gunshot salutes, ceremonies and black
armbands will heal their pain. I identified with them,
because I faced the same plight 12 years ago, and ceremonial bickering was the least of their concerns.
Death should remind us to live purpose driven lives. I read an article written by Oliver Sacks a neurologist
who discovered that he had multiple metastases in his liver and cancer; he had this to say concerning his numbered days on earth, "death, whether sudden or expected should remind us
of the importance of not merely existing, but of being intensively alive in
every moment we are lucky to have." For the statesmen I have written about,
they lived a life of service and their names will forever be etched into the
hearts of many. Quite
essentially, we should be reminded by these deaths to make the most of this life. We should reflect upon whether our lives have been well lived.
A requiem like expression of a true feeling of the orphans. May their souls rest in peace and may God bless their families and protect their legacies.
ReplyDeleteThanks, indeed may their souls rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteYour father must be proud of you, mercies to the poor opharns whose wounds are so fresh...May their souls Rest in Eternal Peace & their works mean something to this nation everyday
ReplyDeleteI definitely hope he is, our prayers are still in order for the fallen General's family and his soul
DeleteI re-lived those moments through your words. Sad and difficult moments for the families, that they continue to live through even when the crowds and cameras are gone. May the Lord comfort and soothe their grieving hearts!
ReplyDeleteamen. Bro....
DeleteSad story. I can relate at paragraph 6, we always wonder why God does certain things, but eventually we realize that His ways are not our ways. Your father must be proud of your accomplishments.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the kind words.
ReplyDeleteWow! Once a writer, always a writer! These are three years back from now when you wrote this but a lay man would consider this perfect!
ReplyDeleteIts sad that you lost him, but I know he is smiling down at you.
You are such a great writer Joel! Your words paint pictures that I can visualize. I look forward to seeing you write books and also have your articles put in magazines
Thank you for these very kind words.
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